Where do I start? I have learned so much from the death of my brother Dennis that I feel like I could go on forever writing about all the wisdom God has blessed me with during this difficult time.
I have already posted about cherishing life and living life. So now here is just some random advice.
- Live in the moment, but consider the future and the effects your momentary living will have on the future. For example, my body is overweight. I could “live in the moment” by eating whatever I want, whenever I want. However, the fact is that if I don’t want my journey to end early or painfully I must lose weight. Therefore, I must consider what each bite of food is doing to my body. This is a subject I could ramble on about but I wont. Let’s just say it is somewhat of a recap of the last blog post: Live your life… but live responsibly.
- Instill your moral beliefs and values upon your children. I am a Christian so in my case that would be the Bible. Please recognize here though when I say to “instill” it in them, I am not meaning to bang them over the head and force it down their throats. I am saying that if you do not instill YOUR moral values and beliefs into your children someone else will instill their moral beliefs into your child. This leads me to number 3.
- Have a plan for your child. I don’t mean to expect they will be the next Rembrandt, or even be a painter, a dancer, or whatever. No, I am talking about deeper than that. Figure out what you expect from your children and expect it, but be reasonable and always extend grace as needed. My personal plan for my children is a list of traits I hope and pray to instill in them; the list is individualized for each of my children. Perhaps I will post about that sometime.
- Children are often like a rainbow. Imagine each color is an emotion. They are beautiful when properly expressed and to know what that means you have to know your child.
- Know your child. Really get to know them – and their friends.
- Never ever, ever, GIVE UP. There is a distinct difference between recognizing a lost cause and a challenging situation. Learn to know the difference. Get up. Dust off. And go at it again, and again, and again, until you succeed.
- Mend relationships. Not every relationship is healthy. I know that, but perhaps consider, “If this person died tomorrow what would I wish I had said or done differently, if anything?” And go for it. (But there is a time and a place for letting someone go.)
- Regret is from the devil. It is an evil monster that hopes to steal your happiness. It saps your emotional energy at the very thought of the incident(s) that you regret. NEVER WALLOW IN REGRET! NEVER! Let it go. Like the song says… (When you stop singing read number 9.) 😉
- Tell people how you feel about them, even when it is challenging but especially when you have something kind or encouraging to say. You never know when those kind words or encouragements will save a life.
- Fearlessly be yourself. ALWAYS.
- Recognize you cannot fix anyone. But also recognize that people can and do change. Your example and expressions of your feelings in a kind manner are the best ways to help a person change. But some people are just old dogs that don’t want to learn new tricks. In those moments we have to either accept that person or their traits and move on, or be willing to let them go. Sometimes a lack of change can lead to a person who is much like standing water. Sure it is water and water is good, but standing water, when left alone without runoff will become stagnant and gross.
- Never, ever stop growing. You are either growing or dead. There is no in between.
- Dream. But don’t just dream the possible stuff. Dream the im-possible. Audry Hepburn said, “Nothing is impossible. The word itself says “Im Possible.” You will never reach the stars if you aren’t aiming for the moon.
- Love. Love your neighbor, your friends, your parents, your kids and especially complete strangers because every one of those people need love. We all need love and everyone may not deserve it by their actions, but who deserves love is not for us to judge. Love is like water – it gives life. Pass Love out like you have an endless supply because really you do.
I could ramble on more but again I find myself musing at 12 am…
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Super (but not feeling so super) Momma Maggie
(So my dear editor has commented that perhaps I should do something about my grammar, spelling and punctuation errors that happen when I write late at night. For your information, and hers, if I write after 11 p.m. I schedule the article to post the following day. This means there is no time for editing, or if there is I suppose I just feel like the point I am making is much more important than perfect grammar, punctuation and spelling. I will do my best though. I suppose this is an area I could improve in.)